Asheville Counseling Resources
Writing, Conversations + Resources
This is a curated collection of blog posts, media features, and resources for people who are ready to go deeper than coping strategies.
I write for smart, sensitive women who are tired of carrying too much; for men who want to connect more honestly with their inner lives; and for elders sitting with questions of meaning, loss, and what still matters. In other words, people who are ready to reclaim their energy, trust themselves, and create more ease in how they live and love.
I’ve been a therapist and counselor in Asheville for over fifteen years. This page is where I share my thoughts on life, healing, and the human condition. I also share podcast conversations I’ve been part of and my professional affiliations. If you’re exploring therapy in Asheville to support your relationships, emotional health, or personal growth, you’ll find grounded, depth-oriented writing here.
Asheville Counseling Blog
Relationships are my central preoccupation: how they go wrong, how they can go right, and what it takes to understand your own patterns well enough to change them. I write about the things that don’t often get named: emotional estrangement, the anger that lives just under the surface, the loneliness inside committed partnerships, the defenses we built for good reasons that now cost us.
I also write about complex trauma, depth-oriented therapy, and the ways we cope that can keep us stuck.
Women in Asheville are dealing with emotional burnout
You’re competent. Capable. Reliable.The woman others lean on — at work, in relationships, in your family. You hold everything together. You get things done. You don’t fall apart. And yet… inside, you may feel tired in a way sleep doesn’t fix. Quietly resentful....
Asheville therapy for older adults
Emotional Wellbeing in Your 60s and 70s: Finding Peace, Purpose, and Connection in the Next Chapter of Life Many people imagine that by their 60s and 70s, life will have settled into an easy rhythm — that they’ll feel peaceful, confident, and content. But in reality,...
“You’re Doing Too Much” (Over-Functioning)
During a conversation with a colleague this morning, "over-functioning" came up. In the mental health world, there are often conversations about working with clients who are lower functioning, or higher functioning. Lower functioning generally defines someone who is...
Stonewalling and Avoidance Aren’t Helping Your Relationship
Stonewalling and Avoidance Aren't Helping Your Relationship Is you have a tendency to shut down the conversation, retreat into your own space, or avoid the other person entirely when conflict hits, you might using stonewalling and avoidance. And it's probably...
Navigating The Weekend After a Tough Break-Up
Navigating the Weekend After a Tough Break-Up is... Tough! Keeping busy after a painful break-up, particularly on the weekends can be a challenge. Especially if your weekends when you were in a relationship were completely consumed by your partner. Rest assured, we...
Is Your Anxiety Making You A Controlling Person?
Anxiety is a powerful condition. It can challenge your ability to access a calm, clear-headed perspective. Anxiety can use up a tremendous amount of psychic energy as it causes you to scan the environment for real or perceived threats. Sadly, it can also make you a...
How to Stop Bottling Up Your Feelings
Most people who bottle up their feelings don't realize it's a problem. On the contrary, it's been a solution for a long time. If you're someone who has been a feelings-and-thoughts-represser for as long as you can remember, you might be wondering... "How come now, all...
Knowing When Someone Is Not “Your Person”
New relationships can sweep us off our feet. Often, there's chemistry. Excitement. Possibility. The idea is that this new person we've met holds the key to new opportunities and new experiences. They'll help us access parts of ourselves that have been long forgotten....
The Best Ways to Use Your Therapy Session
Psychotherapy is more of an art than a science. There are many different modalities or methods of doing therapy and equally as diverse a set of theories about "what works best" in the therapy process. Despite all of those variables, there are proven ways to get the...
Seeking A Therapist’s Therapist?
Are you a clinician that wants to do some of your own work? Are you seeking a therapist's therapist? Awesome! First, let me say, kudos to you, for doing your own work. As a profession, psychotherapy is one of the most meaningful and most rewarding work I've ever done....
Therapy for People-Pleasers
I specialize in therapy for people pleasers. Do you fit into that category? Consider the following questions: Do you tend to sacrifice what you want or need in the service of accommodating other people? Do you identify as a people-pleaser? Are you caught in...
Therapy for Trust Issues
This week I've been thinking a lot about trust. How trust is forged in relationships, and how it is broken. Because I offer therapy for trust issues and have gotten to explore this phenomenon with many people, here are some thoughts on how this issue forms, and what...
Media Features
USA Today + Asheville Citizen Times
In the days that followed Hurricane Helene’s devastation of Asheville in October 2024, I was interviewed by USA Today on the mental health toll of collective disaster: what it does to a community to lose so much at once, and what support actually looks like in the aftermath. Living and practicing here, this wasn’t an abstract conversation. It was personal.
Podcast Interviews
Women In Depth
I joined host Lourdes Viado to talk about one of the most quietly pervasive wounds I see in my practice: what happens to women who grew up without an emotionally present father. We explored how paternal neglect shapes a woman’s relationship with herself, her sense of worth, her patterns in love, and the particular grief of longing for something that was never quite there. A conversation for anyone who recognizes that wound, even if they’ve never had words for it.
Finding Your Way Through Therapy
I sat down for an honest conversation about what it means to be a therapist who also does her own work: why I believe it’s non-negotiable, what I’ve learned from being on the other side of the room, and how my own therapy has shaped the way I practice. If you’ve ever been curious about the person behind the practice, this one’s for you.
Work With Me
If you’re done carrying it all alone and ready for meaningful, lasting change, I invite you to take the next step. As your counselor, I would be honored to support you.
Whole Self Therapy® PLLC
Serving individuals in Asheville, across North Carolina, and in Florida via telehealth.