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The Gnarled Roots of Depression

The Gnarled Roots of Depression

Depression is an incredibly challenging state of being. It drains your energy, takes the pleasure out of everything you do, and convinces you that there is no point in anything. While it sometimes seems that depression arises out of nowhere and slowly takes over our...

How Often Should I See My Therapist?

How Often Should I See My Therapist?

How often should I see my Therapist? "How often should I plan to come see you?" This is a question I often get from prospective clients early on in our work together. My answer: every week. Therapy is a unique relationship, and has the potential to be one of your most...

What is Complex Trauma?

What is Complex Trauma?

Most of us have heard about Post-traumatic Stress Disorder and many of us associate PTSD with the military and experiences of being in combat. Post-traumatic stress disorder indicates a psychological response to an acutely traumatic situation. It was coined and...

The Engaging Therapist

The Engaging Therapist

Lately I have had a lot of talks with brave souls, reaching out for support as they endeavor to get clarity and work on themselves. During my free consultation by phone these individuals have expressed some desire about the type of therapist they want. "Are you the...

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Practices for your Whole Self

Psychological Needs List

Psychological Needs List

The work of getting to know oneself is some of the most important work that we can do. A big part of this process is getting to know your own needs. We are in a time in our culture when we have grown accustomed to deferring to family, friends or the media to tell us...

The Holidays, Family, and Spiritual Growth

I just discovered Sally Kempton, former journalist turned meditation teacher, via Facebook (of all places!) thanks to a friend from graduate school, who shared the following article "Your Roots Are Showing." It's holiday time, and with holidays, for most of us, comes...

“Anger is like a howling baby, suffering and crying. The baby needs his mother to embrace him. You are the mother for your baby, your anger. The moment you begin to practice breathing mindfully in and out, you have the energy of a mother, to cradle and embrace the baby.” 

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Thoughts & Ideas

The Great Depresh

The Great Depresh

Last night I tuned in to Gary Gulman's HBO special "The Great Depresh." It was a 74 minute comedy special featuring a mixture of his stand-up routine and documentary elements from his life. Gary Gulman: The Great Depresh 2019 Trailer As a therapist and as someone who...

What’s Your Metric?

What’s Your Metric?

So often in life we find ourselves in periods of reflection. Looking back, we contemplate our successes and failures in various aspects of our lives. When we do this, we open the door to the feeling that we’re coming up short; we’re not measuring up to our own...

The Power and Pain of Vulnerability

The Power and Pain of Vulnerability

    In my psychotherapy practice, I often hear clients express their deepest longings and fears: "I'm afraid that I am incapable of creating meaningful connections in my life. I don't want to have to say what I really feel." "I'm afraid if I try to express...

How To Be Alone

In my private psychotherapy practice I often hear from clients about their fears of being alone. From my vantage point, I can see how those fears keep them stuck in unfulfilling relationships, prevent them from speaking the truth of what they need or want, and can...

My Own Lessons in Non Attachment

My Own Lessons in Non Attachment

When I started up my private psychotherapy practice a few years ago, my first office seemed to fall into my lap. It was a low-risk investment in a convenient location, and the big, north facing windows let in sunlight that instantly felt like home to me. With a...

It has always been my understanding that order to invite new experiences, people, and things into our worlds, we must first be willing to let go in order to create a space for these new potentials to unfold.

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Spring Cleaning: Letting Go and Welcoming In

It is not yet spring, we are in the final weeks of winter, with the accompanying weather fluctuations of sunny and high 60's one day and 20 degrees and freezing rain the next. Even though March and the official onset of spring is not quite yet here, throughout this...

Creating Your Own Sacred World

Creating Your Own Sacred World

As a part of my own healing and spiritual journey, I have taken part in two Native American rite of passage rituals, Vision Quests.  The experience of Vision Questing is a life changing one for many, and, depending on your guides, it may also allow one to partake in...